The Mission Of A Mother
I can be an idealist when it comes to motherhood.
If the past few years have taught me anything about motherhood, it’s that idealism is dangerous.
Have ideals, but don’t measure your success against them.
When I have a great day with the kids I think “Win!” and when don’t I think “Fail”. While I can see how crazy that is, that doesn’t stop me from swinging from the highs that come with the great days and moments of motherhood to the depths of “why am I a such a crap Mum?!”
As I’ve mentioned many times, I had a very idealistic vision of what motherhood would look like for me, and to date very little of that picture has come to fruition.
I need a new picture.
So I’m creating for myself a challenge. To think about me – about the things I believe matter, and that I want to prioritise – not what others do or what my kids my want but what matters to me in being a Mum.
And I’m starting now.
What I want to do is write a motherhood mission statement. I want a mission statement that gives me a picture of what I am trying to achieve as a Mum – the values and practices that matter most to me so that when I am tempted to feel like I am failing, I have something realistic and tangible to measure myself against. I want to see the real wins for what they are, and same for the times I feel like I’m not doing a good job.
I’m going to get started right here on my blog and I’d love your input, I’m even going to invite you to join in with me. I am so excited about this!
A mission statement is something enduring – it’s not bound to a stage of parenting or a season of life but incorporates your goals.
Week 1 Challenge: What are the words that come to mind when you think about the Mum you want to be?
Before I can form a new picture of motherhood for myself, I need to work out the things that matter to me. I’m going to do that via a list of words because that’s how I work, but images or songs or anything could be used for this.
Some of the words that come to mind are faithful, fun, secure…
I’m no Seven Cherubs motherhood guru, but this is important to me. I need to do something proactive to change my mindset about myself as a Mum.
If you would like to join in please let me know in the comments. If you don’t have a blog but want to join in you can do so in the comments too – or keep a journal and just check in with me to let me know how you are going.
Update: I will put a link up next Monday so if you feel like joining in and sharing your words please do – I’ll also post mine and share the second step :)