Nudity Is Good For You.
I mentioned a week or so ago that I was at a local public pool and there was a boy about 10 years old in the women’s change room with his mother who was applying sunscreen to him. In other words, he wasn’t getting dressed, his mother wasn’t getting dressed – he was just standing there in the middle of the room looking around while his Mum lathered him up. I felt uncomfortable getting changed with him there – not because I am prude, but because it seemed to me that a boy of that age wouldn’t be able to help but stare. Looking at his mother, I found myself wondering what she was thinking. Was she so naive as to think he wouldn’t notice, or did she just think it was appropriate?
My sister agreed with me.
My husband did not.
I should say, dear bloggie friends who have not met me in real life – I have “assets”. Assets with a capital A. Actually, more like a capital F (maybe 2). Need I say more? My “assets” are like a visual playground for men. 10 year old boys cannot be blamed. My “assets” mean I am really not comfortable in a situation where a boy of any age is going to be privy to my naked form. Mind you, I suspect many women with all different sized assets might feel the same. I digress.
The Happy Husband’s argument was this - it’s good for boys (and girls) to be exposed to nudity in non-sexual environments; nudity that is real, not airbrushed. A dozen naked women in a change room is different to women in a lingerie/swimwear catalogue. Nudity can be just about people, it doesn’t always have to be about “rumpy-bumpy” (yes, he actually used the phrase rumpy-bumpy!) In fact, he argued, “nudity is good for you”.
I understand his point; more and more research tells us that p*rn is not good for you. (Duh?) Men are developing completely unrealistic ideas about what women look like both aesthetically and anatomically and both young men and women, who have not yet experienced s*x are moving into adulthood with mythical expectations, expectations that are unlikely to be met. (Conveniently Veronice recently posted about similar issues here)
I get that it’s good for young boys and girls to be exposed to healthy images and expectations of the human body. In fact, I whole heartedly agree and, where I feel it’s appropraite I am really happy to be part of that learning process – for example, in the context of breastfeeding. I think it is wonderful and healthy for children, of all ages, to see a woman breastfeeding. I am always very happy and inviting when it comes to letting kids, including older boys, look while I breastfeed and I’ve never sensed a sexual tone in doing so rather a “Wow! That baby is EATING” kind of amazement.
I still think learning can happen at home (or through art) rather than in a public change room when you are 10 years old. I also think that making other women the ‘teaching tools’ for your son isn’t fair on them.
Am I overreacting? What do you think?
(Not to dilute his argument but HH did say that he thought 6 was the cut-off age for a boy to be in a female changeroom).
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