I’m Just So Busy Blah Blah Blah
For those who have been reading a while you may remember that a couple of years ago I decided to get rid of the word “busy” from my vocabulary. There were a number of reasons for doing it and through the process I discovered two things:
1. Life is what you make of it. Each day we are faced with choices about how we spend our time, what we prioritise and what we commit to. There is no denying that there are times when the choices are limited or not really our own and yet most of the time, we make the call about what we will do and when we will do it, or not do it as the case may be.
2. There are a lot of words you can substitute for “busy”. In the end I accepted this and found that by using other words, I was thinking more carefully about what I was feeling and why I was feeling what I was feeling.
By deliberately removing the word “busy” from my life I was much clearer about the activities I commited to and the rhythm of my life and it was good. It felt so good to escape the “I’m so busy” world that I’d found myself trapped in.
Since Bear was born that has gone out the window. In the ‘adjustment phase’ that I’m in (that seems to last 12months for me) the only rhythm I’ve been thinking about his his, mainlygetting him into one, and keeping Bliss in hers. I’ve committed to activities I shouldn’t have and found myself constantly feeling overwhelmed, letting others down, working ’til middnight, getting no clearning done and so my house looks like a bunch of crazy people have moved in and now I’m here writing this post on a Thursday when I know people don’t read my blog much on Thursdays! I’m….busy.
And so, I’m learning again. Back to square one.
I’m slowly releasing myself of the obligations I took on to soon. Slowly starting to make good choices again and slowly, but deliberately, considering the way I speak about my life. After all, everyone’s busy.
Mummble
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I read whenever you post Lou :-)
Thanks love. That probably sounded a bit more dramatic than I intended. I’ve just noticed that there’s a drop in hits on a Thursday – it’s the same every week – odd but no big deal. Must be everyone’s shopping day! :)
I’m here, I’m reading!
I tell myself that I’m not busy, I’m just living a full life :)
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That’s a very good way of expressing it. I think I’m overflowing at the moment…and not in the nice serene way…more in a “the toilet’s blocked and flooding the laundry” kind of way…. *sigh*
Great post. I could have written this and I so needed to read it!
Thanks Kate. I always feel that way about your posts – must be something in the water! x
Maybe Busy is the opposite to Balance?? No idea really – but destressing is surly on my mind atm :O)
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I was growled at by my pain management doctor for not seeing my GP in the last months and getting new meds. My thing was ‘I haven’t had time’ and really, it hasn’t been that I haven’t had time, it’s that the time I have had, I’ve been loathe to spend it in a waiting room, doing nothing.
It has been a hectic few months, hey? And my kids are older!
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I thoroughly enjoyed your post…… Busy is a word we all tend to use so flippantly…..
Very Thoughtful. I am completely guilty of being busy and somehow I feel I have very little to show for it.
I may try dropping the b word from my vocab and see if that helps!
Thank you!!!
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I love the idea of dropping the word ‘busy’ and being mindful of the things I take up.
And I am here reading, I am just not commenting so much (anywhere).
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I agree. Whenever someone says “I don’t have time to do that – I’m too busy” I disagree with them. We have time for what we MAKE time for, in my mind. Within reason, of course!
So, I focus on what I want – or need – to make time for. I love being ‘busy’ but I don’t like being overwhelmed, so it’s a matter of trying to balance that. And it’s easier if I only take on the necessary and the things I’m passionate about. Key word in this whole thing being ‘trying’ – it seems like a daily struggle!
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What a great idea, dropping I’m busy. I find I get myself wound up thinking that ohh..ALL the time :) I remember seeing an Oprah show once where she specifically planned to have “Quiet” time. I need to do that, and stop chasing my tail .. so to speak. Thanks great post.
It is a long standing pet peeve of mine to hear 1. I don’t have time and 2. I don’t have money. We ALL have time, and we ALL have money and we ALL have the free will to choose how we use both.
Like you, I try not to say I’m ‘busy’ or I don’t have time. Cause like you say, we are all busy. Balance really is a daily struggle, but every day we wake up fresh with new mercy. Here’s to trying to get it right on another day!
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Those crazy people? They moved into my house too.
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