The Break Up starring Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston
This is a film where Vaughn and Aniston play a young couple, Gary and Brooke, navigating the end of their relationship. The question that’s stayed me since watching this film is ‘what makes a good movie’? The Break-Up is classified a Romantic Comedy however I think it’s fair to say that few, if any, viewers would find this movie romantic or funny. That said I was amazed by it. This film has nailed male and female idiosyncrasies in a way that leaves me speechless (no small feat!). As I’ve talked to girlfriends who’ve seen this movie and are married/in committed relationships we’ve all marvelled at this movie, wondering who the fly on the wall of our own living rooms has been. Our experiences might not be as dramatic as in the film, after all we are still married/in those relationships, BUT we’ve all had those fights. It was uncanny.
At this point I’d like to say – I love my husband, he is a fantastic man but in many ways it was the fights depicted in this film, the same fights we had, and the way we navigated through them particularly HH’s response to them, that are the reason I married him. That sounds a bit weird I know, but we had those fights and time and through I came to see HHs’ character and integrity. There’s a scene near the end of the film where Aniston’s character is in tears and Vaughn finally ‘gets it’ and then sets about to make things right. I married HH because he would always do that, just right back at the beginning at the time of the initial fight. And I have come to understand the need to 20minutes downtime for him at the end of the day, and his genuine willingness to help but also need for this space and I do my best to provide this for him each day. We’re not perfect and we’ll never find a perfect partner, the person who meets our every need exactly as we want them too – nor should we look for such a person unless we want to live a narcissistic existence. It is the character and integrity we show in the way we love and respond to the needs of our spouse that matters. It’s because of this that I sadly conclude sadly (for I really am a romantic at heart) that Brooke (Aniston) makes the right decision in the end.
I realise this is a movie review but the similarities to everyday life were so striking and they contribute too much to my liking of this film for me not to mention them. If you want to watch men and women at their worst in a relationship, and hopefully learn a thing or too about communication this is a good film. In fact, I was both saddened and encouraged watching this movie. Saddened because these scenes are too familiar in this broken world where people put their own needs first and respond with such a lack of compassion and grace to those closest to them, and encouraged because HH and I, by God’s grace, have learnt so much about each other, about forgiveness and kindness, and about love by going through some of these hard times.
I have to go babysit now but perhaps more on this later. I give this film 3.5 stars.
p.s. I also loved Jason Bateman in this, if you haven’t watched the TV series Arrested Development then you’re missing out!!!